Anger is a normal part of life. And on Long Island, anger may show up more often than we would like. The Long Island Expressway and Long Island Railroad are just two places we frequently hear about anger management issues becoming real problems.
At normal levels anger can be healthy. You feel angry and that let’s you know someone is likely doing something unfair or threatening someone or something you care about. If you respond constructively, anger has done its job and so have you.
But, for many of us on Long Island and across the country, our anger can lead us to behaviors that feel out of control.
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Anger management problems can be experienced in the body. Overactivation of your nervous system could be related to medical problems. In fact, intense anger problems are one of the best predictors of heart attacks, as good as things like blood pressure and cholesterol. So it is probably a good idea to do what you can to manage your anger and stress.
Anger problems are also related to what you do when you’re angry. If you have anger management issues you may regret some things you said or did when you were really enraged. You may have some people in your life who aren’t happy with you, haven’t forgiven you, or will no longer hang out with you. You might have run into problems at work, or in restaurants, or stores, or with customer service representatives on the phone.
Anger is not a specific diagnosis in the DSM-V. But there are scientifically tested techniques that are effective at reducing anger management problems. They do this by helping you lower the intensity of the anger, shorten the duration of the episode, and help you to say and do the right things (or at least not do the wrong things) when you are really angry.
There are a few different types of skills that have scientific support. The good news is the appear to work alone or when combined with each other. So, you can learn all of them and then decide which ones you like the best and find most effective. There is also some evidence that using these skills to work on anger may also decrease depression symptoms, which is not a bad side effect.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is the type of therapy that has been shown to work for anger management. There are a few different types of skills that are all considered CBT that appear to help. In general, these are skills you learn from the therapist, will practice in session, and at home. Over time, the hope is you will get better and better at using the skills to prevent and reduce your anger episodes, so you can feel better, behave more effectively, and enhance your relationships.
If you or a loved one on Long Island have an anger management issue, please call us at 646-260-0703 (Click to call in mobile)
We will be happy to answer questions and meet with you in our Rockville Centre offices if you decide you want help.